FFS. How did that happen?
n the title, I meant to say: I am going to be watching White Lotus and yelling at the screen as I bite off all my fake blue fingernails off and curse Mike White to eternal damnation, whilst eating an entire bag of chips (probably salt and vinegars) and I have no idea, none at all, how the title ended up as I am going to be on White Lotus, unless my subconscious took over while I was trying to figure out how to end the frigging video above. I will say, however, that I am manifesting my partner Henry Czerny being on the next season of it. (Dear Mike White, I am sorry I am predicting that I will be cursing you to eternal damnation. It’s just that I am just so afraid that might be the case. Having said that, I think you’d really love Henry and he’d be a superb addition to the show. I do not need any commission for a referral, either.)
If you do not know Henry, this is from his NYT article.
Look, I’m a Jewish mom (not his, gross) but I get real proud of my people. (That includes you, duh.) I also feed you whenever you are at my house and you will never leave empty-handed. Just saying. (What if I was like, and you will never leave, and I just left it at that? That would be so creepy. You will never leave empty-handed. Ask anyone.)
If you did not watch my video above, I asked what your thoughts are on how often I should send this Substack out while we are doing THE SCHOOL OF WHATEVER WORKS?
Today is Day 5: Connection.
Each day until my forthcoming book PROOF OF LIFE publishes, we are diving deep into being (or becoming) our own permission slip by employing the school of whatever works (TSOWW.)
TSOWW means that as long as you are not intentionally hurting yourself or anyone else, use whatever works to support you in being as freely YOU as possible, without apology and without waiting for “permission.”
Just after I decided on today’s theme, this exchange happened (video below.) I love magical synchronicities. And guess what? They are f*cking everywhere. Stay open and you’ll see. Or, maybe you know? Would you share with the community any experiences you’ve had that occurred because you were open? Relationships? Are there any connections you’d like to foster that would require more of said “staying open?” Are you afraid of staying open or opening yourself to connection? (By the way, we got no room for shame here, so put that crap down. Shame Loss, remember?)
This community thrives when we share. All community does.
So, please share and engage.
I will recap the last few days of TSOWW (The School Of Whatever Works) or head to myInstagram and see the reels. They are invitations. Do what you want with them and see where they take you…. Click on join the chat below. This is free for everyone, whether you are a “paid” subscriber or not, fyi. Speaking of that, keep reading. After the video below, I will again share an offer that will be ending April 11th. It’s a really sweet deal (per the title.) That part was not a lie. (And if I do end up being on White Lotus, well- Jesus, Mary, Joseph, and the wee donkey, I will shit a brick because look what staying open indeed can do.
And no, I am not an actor. I just play one in my head.
Things:
Next Sunday 4/13 at 11:30 am pst (2:30 pm est) the poet Brad Aaron Modlin and I are teaching a workshop (mainly Brad.) I’ll mostly be there to listen to his genius poetry and teaching and admire his gorgeous beard. You will be blown away. ( I will send zoom link to “paid subscribers.” If you are one and do not get it, email me.)
Yes, it will be recorded.
It is only for PAID subscribers but…
You can become a “paid” subscriber right now by emailing “proof” of life (jk)- by emailing proof of purchase of one copy of my forthcoming book Proof of Life. One pre-ordered copy gets you 6 months.
Email proof of 2 copies and get a year. A year!
Email proof you’ve preordered 3 or more and get a damn lifetime subscription! What what!
I said what I said.
My email is jennifer@jenniferpastiloff.com. This offer ends April 11.
Friends, preorders are everything. Unless you are an author, you probably do not know this. They are. So, thank you. We are so much better together. It does take a village, my gosh, and I am so grateful you are my village, and that I am yours. (I mean, I hope. Forgive me if I am being presumptuous and thank god for spell check because that is just one of those words.) Click on the book cover below to preorder or here.
Anyway, I love you guys. I am going in now to read all your comments. I am so grateful for this community. Find the recaps below for the past few days and I truly hope that these invitations find you expanding in ways you never dreamed possible. Love, me
Recaps (no, not of White Lotus.) Of TSOWW, you silly. All of them are on my Instagram as reels. Every invitation also has a “today” component. This means: how can you embody who you say you are, or want to be- right now, or today?
Day 1- Commitment or Recommitment in your life. What do you want to commit or recommit to? What can you do right now, no matter how minuscule?
Day 2- Beginning Again. In what are of your life do you want to begin again? Take a breath. There, you just did. maybe it’s confronting where you’ve been scared to, or where you thought you did not get to begin again? (I’d love to hear about any of these, not just the one for today. Chime in on any or all.)
Day 3- Generosity. How can you embody that? Also, we’d love to hear stories of when someone has been generous with you and it’s changed your life.
Day 4- I got you. What does that mean for you? Look at this sweet video of Odin below. Find them on my Insta, too.
That brings us to today, Day 5. Connection.
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