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Michelle Dowd's avatar

I am recommitting to writing. I have a book proposal about to go out on submission and a limited release series in conversation with a showrunner and I want one or both of these to sell soon. I want to be a professional writer full-time. (My last book, Forager: Field Notes for Surviving a Family Cult, earned out quickly and I am so proud of this and this is the first time I have ever said that.) Thank you for the courage, Jen!

https://www.amazon.com/Forager-Field-Surviving-Family-Memoir/dp/1643755773

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Kelly Thompson TNWWY's avatar

Love this, you, and your book!

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Melissa Rottenberg's avatar

I recommit to allowing myself to shine, instead of only (sometimes barely) thrive. My awesome, awkward, hilarious, loving self. Allowing myself to FEEL the feels and love instead of push it down (because it’s just way too much to feel the feels of my own plus those of others around me) and trust I can do this and I get to do this- feel the feels and love - because it’s a conduit to allowing me to shine.

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Lisa Young's avatar

I pre ordered your upcoming book (so frickin excited!) and I just want to tell you how proud I am of you, I got sober a year and a half ago and I didn’t think I had a huge problem but I did. I had to recommit to writing again because I thought my artistry came through when I had a little buzz but I couldn’t just sip on a drink all night, once I had one I wanted another and another until I was way beyond being artistic. It brought me out of my shell, I couldn’t talk and carry on a good conversation . I thought I was too introverted but honestly the more I drank to get over that the more it took. Anyway I knew when you put your mind to do something you would totally succeed! Can’t wait for the book and I love the painting I got from you!! Lisa xoxo

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Kelly Thompson TNWWY's avatar

Just preordered—so excited! I’ve been sharing There’s Nothing Wrong With You (And There Never Was) since an epiphany I had seven years ago (see my LCSW page). It felt like a natural next step to title my Substack the same, which I launched in July 2024.

I write about how to recover (from anything) find your bad ass, kick ass and align with your true self.

I’m recommitting to standing in the light of my soul one day at a time —-and reclaiming my voice has been a lifelong process since I was born and raised in a cult I fled as a teen.

https://open.substack.com/pub/thompsonk?r=1fhxt&utm_medium=ios

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Ashley Velez's avatar

I am committing to embracing silly. Like, really, truly embracing absurd, the ridiculous, the hilarious (especially without feeling like I have to have a substance in order to be silly.) Eff that. There's so much anger, hurt and pain in this world, and there's been so many times I've robbed myself of having fun because I didn't *want* to look silly. Imagine! I'm trying to think more about that Mary Oliver poem, "The Summer Day," and how, from this point forward, I'm reinventing a life where I can be or do anything. Especially silly.

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Sarah Ezrin's avatar

The countdown is on!!!!!!!!!!!!! Cannot wait

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Danni Levy's avatar

I am committing to being at peace with the unknown. There are so many ??? right now and I am returning to a feeling of ease. Gratitude for the people in my life is my safety net. I am also committed to people in general. I want people to feel held by my presence. Be love. Yes, I am committing and recommitting to this.

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Rebecca Maslen's avatar

Ok first of all, WHITE LOTUS SEASON 3 IS A RIDE INTO THE HEART OF CHAOS!!!

But I am committing to my dreams - running a gardening business, writing my fiction piece I broke open with the help of Lidia Yuknavitch, and spreading my heart-writing through my Substack “Gardening For the End of the World.” I have to do this because I’ve put it all off for far too long. I deserve this and I want to show my son that you can live your dreams.

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Marisa McAdams's avatar

Not sure where to email my my proof of purchase of proof of life!♥️🧡💛

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Lyriquediscorde's avatar

I'm Laura. I live in Monrovia, CA (near Pasadena). I'm dealing with a lot of depression, anxiety, and asshole shame and doubt stuff. I am committing (or re: committing - both, maybe) to finishing the first draft of my novel. I've never been good at finishing things or taking space for myself to finish things - but that's all within my control. I'm here for this. Thank you, Jennifer. You have no idea how much I need this right now.

Today I hopped on to a writers-together Zoom, and am hopping on another one in 5 minutes tonight. To write. To work on even a few sentences or a chapter, or whatever comes. That's my one thing. xoxo

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Katie Joy Duke's avatar

YES YES YES!!! I love permission slips!!

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Jennifer Pastiloff's avatar

me too

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Cloe Clayton's avatar

Committing to my creativity, through poetry and dance and cooking, and whatever else might arise! Happy to be here Xx

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Jennifer Pastiloff's avatar

you’re killing it. would you share some here?

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Cloe Clayton's avatar

Not sure where - here in comments? I'm a newbie to Substack :-)

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Aleta's avatar

Well I just wrote a very vulnerable and long ass post on my shameful recommitment to self care. But I'm technically challenged without a proper computer and it all got lost somewhere someway. Par for my course of life I guess. It even went in to how weird and awkward I am. But maybe the interweb just isn't ready for me right now. On this note, I love you Jennifer and thank you for bringing so raw, honest, vulnerable and showing up how you do. You're a huge light in a dark place. ✨️

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Jennifer Pastiloff's avatar

where is the post? copy paste it here?

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Aleta's avatar

It got deleted. Ugh.

But I did write my first poem in decades. Literally. Just so out of the blue. Posted here to say fuck vulnerability.

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Aleta's avatar

It got deleted. I have no idea how to use this lol. But I did just post the first poem I've written in decades. Literally.

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Tammy's avatar

Excited to finally hear you and see you! You are so awesome!! Thank you. I have your book preordered. Can't wait!

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Jill Whitelaw's avatar

Preordered and psyched to read!! White Lotus Season 3 is wild and wonderfully off the rails. So many theories! Ok here goes: (1) that poisonous fruit will end up in a smoothie, killing at least two people from North Carolina while also masking sounds of gunshots; and (2) the girls trip from hell will get worse! Russian girlfriends don’t play...(3) Gaitok is going to die trying to bring the Russians to justice (only one is captured), he’s just not cut out for this security guard stuff; (4) Belinda calls Gary’s bluff and turns him in, but her Thai lover dies in the process and Gary goes further underground; (5) Rick and Chelsea go home and live happily ever after! (6) Chloe finds another man with a questionable past--Valentin?-- after Gary goes on the run.

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Trippin' My Way To Sanity's avatar

***SPOILER ALERT WHITE LOTUS IF YOU'RE NOT CAUGHT UP**

My White Lotus theories: The sweet guard will somehow save the day by using the gun from the guard shack to catch the thieves (Valentin & crew), but will die in the process making him a hero to heartbroken Mook.

Belinda will decide not to take the $100K and will opt instead to rat out Greg but before she can, Greg will kill her or her son or that spa guy she slept with.

Lori will also fuck Valentin just to throw it in Jaclyn's face. The Trump supporter in the Jaclyn, Lori, and___ trio, will get called on her two-faced bullshit and then she'll call Jaclyn's husband and tell him she fucked Valentin. The girlfriend of the Valentin's friend might decide to kill Lori or her boyfriend or both if them in retaliation against Lori for sleeping with her boyfriend.

The Dad of the family will either die of an OD on his wife's Lorazepam, find another gun and shoot himself (and/or his older son and wife), or decide to stay in Thailand to avoid extradition charges and join the Buddhist temple with his daughter and younger son.

Parker Posey's character will kill herself once she finds out about the criminal charges against her husband. The older son will decide since his career is over, he has a future in gay porn. Walton Goggins (I LOVE him!) will decide to marry his girlfriend and live his life. Greg will marry his nympho wife but only if she lets him watch her with other dudes while he's pretending she's his mother (😳).

The daughter in the family will decide she's not going to stay in Thailand because her younger brother wants to stay with her and she wants a clean break from her crazy family.

Goggins' friend will get gender affirming care to become the lovely Asian girl he's always wanted to be. And finally, the lady owner of the resort and the guy who works at the resort who really wants to be a singer will develop a traveling show and perform together all over Asia. Those are my predictions.

I also wanted to congratulate those folks on this thread who have books on submission, ready for submission, or published or in any stage of the process. You go!!! (And side note - I didn't realize that so many people have been in a cult - whether willingly on unwillingly. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that).

As for committing to something, right now all I can manage is committing to getting up every day and trying to persevere. I love you, Jen, and I pre-ordered the book ages ago. Can't wait!!! 🤟❤️

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